This is our 100th video. Amazing! We’re grateful for your interest and support. Dr. Kathy honors her parents in this video because without their support from the time she was a child, Celebrate Kids, Inc., probably wouldn’t exist. How are you supporting your children today? We hope and pray Kathy’s memories inspire you.
My Favorite Things is a fun song from the movie Sound of Music (which explains the image at the top of this post.) Maybe because of all the hoopla over the 50th anniversary of the movie, the song has been on my mind lately.
Last week, I spent 2½ days at the Great Homeschool Convention in Cincinnati, Ohio. Just like the past 3 years, it was a wonderful experience. I saw many favorite things. I’m not going to try to put my things to music, but you could try.
- Husbands and wives holding hands while walking to and from workshops and while in the exhibit hall. I loved how many truly seemed connected. Parents invested in each other and their marriage may be the most important thing their children need.
- Obedient children who waited with parents as they shopped. There were some who clearly were bored and maybe frustrated, but they didn’t act up. I never heard a child complain and I never – in 2½ days – heard a parent correct a child. This doesn’t mean it didn’t happen outside of my space, but I was very impressed with the respect children showed their parents.
- Caramel and chocolate covered pretzel rods and roasted nuts located in three different places, therefore allowing the scent to permeate much of the convention center.
- Children holding hands with moms and dads. It wasn’t about controlling them or making them stay close. It was about wanting them to be close. There’s a difference and you can tell when you observe.
- Moms and dads consulting with each other about which seminars to attend and which products to buy. They asked great questions, shared their opinions, and worked together for the good of their children.
- Hundreds of parents in my seminars eager to learn. Hungry for truth. Wanting to be the best and do the best for their children. They were so easy to teach.
- Joyful friends serving in our exhibit space for hours and hours, sometimes too busy to eat. Never complaining. Only smiling. Thanking me for the privilege of helping!
- Teens in the teen track paying attention from the front of the room to the back. Teachable and grateful. Mature enough to stop by in the exhibit hall later just to say “thanks.”
- Did I mention the roasted nuts? Yes, I think I did.
- Siblings holding hands with each other and enjoying each other’s company. Swinging their arms back and forth as they almost danced in the space between booths was delightful and refreshing.
- Observing Tina Hollenbeck, our staff writer, growing as a speaker and consultant in the homeschool community. Her following is huge and I’m grateful for her service. (We’ve been friends for almost many, many years. Longtime friends are among God’s greatest blessings.)
- Joyful, pleasant, and easy-to-encourage children and teens attending my seminars with their parents. Laughing at the right times. Serious thinking at the right times. Standing in line to thank me for what I taught. Humbling.
- Friends of mine meeting friends of mine and now they’re friends. Yes!
- Parents holding children in their arms. Children being loved, cared for, and allowed to be children.
- The leadership of the Great Homeschool Convention serving unselfishly for hours and hours. Consistently present to make sure things went well. Answering questions. Sharing feedback. Connecting people.
- Exhibiting next to Hearts at Home and Jill Savage, my co-author on No More Perfect Kids, and Moody Publishers, my publisher. It was such fun to interact and network and laugh and learn together. I am so privileged!
Being silly with Jill Savage and our mutual friend, comedian Sally Baucke. It is good for me to get silly with people I trust.
Being in such a positive environment was refreshing. Oh, believe me, I’m exhausted after speaking five times, selling for 2½ days, listening to many stories/questions from concerned parents, and answering as many as I could. But, it’s a very good fatigue.
In our everyday lives, we can see and hear lots of negative and stressful things if we choose to. But, there’s much that’s right in the world and seeing it, hearing it, and prioritizing it is wise.
What can you choose to see and hear today that will put a smile on your face? How can you behave so others will smile?
For our children to be motivated to succeed, especially when things are challenging, we need to be cheerleaders. Although teams need coaches (the subject of last week’s video), cheerleaders help. The key is to know which cheer to use at any given time. How can you become a better cheerleader? Would your children benefit from your constant presence on the sidelines? Dr. Kathy’s examples will inspire you.
Do you go to the Celebrate Kids Facebook page to get the question to ask kids each weekday? Many people do, and the feedback we have gotten is phenomenal! So much so, we’ve taken the questions, added a bunch more, and put them into an app you can download to your iOS (Apple) device. The new CK Questions app is a powerful way to keep the conversation going with your kids. You can use the questions in the car, at the dinner table, or as you go for a walk after dinner. You’ll be amazed at what you learn.
It’s free to download! Check it out. After you’ve used it a bit, please post a review to the app store. We would appreciate that. Don’t forget that we’ll keep posting different questions on Facebook as well.
Are you alive today? Of course you are, if you’re reading this. Are you living?
Did you celebrate LIFE at church yesterday? Let’s live grateful for it EVERY day. When we live with Christ’s sacrifice in mind, we will LIVE. Don’t waste it. Let’s LIVE!
When people spend time with you, is LIFE appealing? Is Jesus appealing? Forgiveness freeing and sin damaging? Really LIVING appealing?
I’m sad for people alive not living.
We need to recognize our need for LIFE and have faith to see Jesus as the answer. He is life and He wants us to live. Daily. Every day. To be alive. To breathe. Inhale. Exhale. Bleed. Cry. Laugh. Feel. Think. Wonder. Question. Answer. Delight. Ponder. Ache. Advance. Love. Grow. Learn. Become.
Be satisfied. Peaceful. Joyful. Joyous. Enthusiastic. Inspired. Lighthearted. Playful. Courageous. Secure. Heroic. Spirited. Enterprising. Determined. Bold. Zealous. Enthusiastic. Confident. Open. Teachable.
Don’t waste it – this thing called life.
This video is about the second role we need to fulfill in order to help children become and remain motivated for success – be a coach. Coaches break tasks down into manageable pieces or steps and coach children to become proficient at one before adding more. Do you need to be a coach more often? Dr. Kathy’s instruction and examples will help you. (Last week’s video was about being teachers, the first of three roles we need to fulfill in order to help children become and remain motivated for success. Next week we’ll cover the third role.)
While Jesus lived here on earth, He was fully man. Like me, you probably don’t think about that as often as you do the reality that He was fully God. That’s most often appropriate.
But, wow. Keep reading….
Jill Savage, my coauthor in No More Perfect Kids, does a beautiful job in her blog today of reminding us that Christ’s humanness is a reason He understands us. Yes, He does.
Jesus understands you and me. When I think about this, it makes it easier for me to pray and really share what’s going on in my life. Because He is God, he’s not surprised. Because He is man, he can relate. Because He is God, I can trust Him to care and to intervene in ways that are best.
Kristin is 40 years old, but has no trouble remembering the name of one of her first grade classmates. It’s because of what happened on one particular day.
Perhaps you can think back to having substitute teachers when you were young. What often happened? One or more children might have acted up, feeling safe since the regular teacher wasn’t in the room. That’s what happened one day in Kristin’s class.
Her teacher returned to school to find a note from the sub on her desk. She wrote about one boy who was disobedient and made her day difficult. For some reason, she didn’t name the boy. Kristin’s teacher looked out at the class and asked for the boy to identify himself. He didn’t.
She asked again. He was silent. She then asked the whole class who it was. They were silent.
To motivate children to succeed, we can take on three distinct roles. One is to be a teacher. We must do more than just tell children what to do and yell at them if they don’t do it. We must teach them what to do and what not to do. We must teach them how to do it. Often, including why we want things done a certain way and when and where it’s relevant is also essential if our kids are going to be successful. We must also be willing to correct them when they’re wrong. Dr. Kathy ends the video with a very important principle to pay attention to regarding corrections.
Unless you live in isolation, you’ve probably noticed young people questioning authority more often than you might have at their age. As I address in chapter 7 of Screens and Teens: Connecting with Our Kids in a Wireless World, many of our youth struggle with authority for several reasons. This Baby Blues comic strip demonstrates one. (The strip’s messages are usually positive. They’re always relevant to our culture.)
The children are watching an old television show and laughing as they realize “the dad is the smart character.” But, look more closely at the strip. The mom/wife is laughing, too. What might the kids learn from her response?
I wish Baby Blues hadn’t further exposed the reality that media often writes men and dads as being dumb, out-of-touch, and often irrelevant. This just serves to give kids (and wives) permission to believe it’s true.
I’m not naïve. I know some dads aren’t engaged with their families. Therefore, they can come across as being out-of-touch and even stupid during some conversations and experiences. If dads read this comic strip, maybe it served to get them thinking. I’m sad if it made them doubt themselves if they have no reason to.
I know many people don’t read comics today. I still do – it’s part of my comfort time, reminding me of my childhood maybe. I realize more adults than kids may have seen the strip. It’s dangerous for adults, too.
What have you noticed lately that indicates we can behave as if we need no authority and/or can ignore authority or people in our lives? For instance, there’s a current television commercial advertising a device to improve people’s hearing. In it, the wife wearing the device keeps talking about how much it improved her hearing while she’s ignoring her husband who is trying to get her attention. She then states something about hearing what she wants to. She’s totally disrespecting her husband in this ad.
If I was watching this with kids, I’d have them pay attention to it and then discuss it as a teachable moment. Look for these opportunities. Be alert and discerning so you don’t get subtly sucked into believing authority is unnecessary and you need no one.