It’s important to celebrate a child’s present value and not simply their future potential. Check out today’s video challenge from Dr. Kathy!
Choosing to use several smarts at the same time is wise. As I tell people when I teach, although I separate them to explain them, they actually never work alone. Knowing about the eight allows us to draw upon them as we need them. This doesn’t just increase our success. It can increase our joy. The more we experience the eight, the easier it becomes to predict which ones will help us in different circumstances. Then we can activate each way of thinking to benefit us.
It’s important for children to understand this for studying and life. Here’s an example from my recent trip overseas. I hope you’ll use it to help you explain the concept to them.
When circumstances change, expectations sometimes should, too. Children would benefit from realizing this and learning how to do it. Otherwise, they can be discouraged for no good reason.
Jill Savage and I, in our new book No More Perfect Kids: Love Your Kids For Who They Are, write about how setting expectations too high can contribute to children thinking they need to be perfect. We also fully understand that setting expectations too low isn’t healthy either. It can be tricky!
“The sooner we become aware of our expectations and align them with reality, the better it is for us and for our children. … We must look for and use evidence when setting goals and expectations for our children.” p. 14, 28
I spoke in Budapest, Hungary, recently, at a Hearts at Home conference. I knew the crowd response would be different from how people respond to me in America. I knew being translated would change the rhythm. Half the audience would react to what I said and half would respond after hearing the translation. I also knew Eastern Europeans would be more guarded in their responses so there would be fewer facial reactions and less laughter in general.
Today Dr. Kathy exhorts parents to, “Raise the children you were given, not the children you wish you had.” Check out today’s video which emphasizes the importance of parents empowering the discovery of who their child truly is as a gift from God.
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When speaking to moms at the Hearts at Home conference in Budapest, Hungary, last Saturday, Erika translated my English into Hungarian. If she wouldn’t have, the Hungarian moms would have been lost. Confused. Untaught. Angry.
I hope I would have seen their confused looks as signs they needed help. I hope their scowls would have caused me to ask someone, “What’s wrong?” Perhaps I would have asked someone if translation was necessary.
On the first flight on my European adventure last Wednesday, the flight attendant asked if I’d like cookies or pretzels with my water. Because I didn’t care, I responded, “Surprise me.”
She was flabbergasted. It was such a fun moment. Her grin was huge when she looked back to her cart and hovered her hand over the two baskets of snacks for a moment. She then reached in, chose some pretzels, and handed them to me. She was able to break out of a rut and enjoy a unique interaction with someone all because I did a “little thing.”
How could you surprise someone this week in a “little” way that adds joy to his or her day?
My seat on the 8-hour flight from Atlanta to Paris might be the best airplane seat I’ve ever had. I was amazed because my flights were booked only two days before my trip because pilots on the airline I had reservations with went on strike. I wouldn’t have been at all surprised to be in a middle seat of a crowded section.
Give us two minutes and we’ll give you a one sentence description of each of the eight smarts your kids have. They each need to know they’re smart. It’s a power word. When your kids and students know they’re smart they can behave like they are. Watch and pass it on. Show it to your kids and talk about it. Be an influence!
When I walked into Jim Daly’s office, I teared up. Even though he’s the President of Focus on the Family and I was there to record our interview, I wasn’t embarrassed. I felt free. He and John Fuller, the host of the show, noticed my tears.
John and Jim invited me to share what I was feeling. After sitting on one of the overstuffed chairs and getting my composure, I explained that some people have prayed on-and-off for 20+ years that I’d one day be a guest on their radio show. I had prayed often. I shared it was one of my mom’s greatest hopes because she knew how influential the show was, but that she was now with Jesus and not here to share in my joy.
Explaining how I had asked people to pray helped them interpret my tears. As tears came to my eyes again, I humbly but confidently told these two important men that I knew I was ready and Celebrate Kids was ready. How did I know?
In today’s video, Dr. Kathy talks about how kids need to live long enough and be strong enough to discover why they are the who they are.
While my dad used graph paper, T-squares, unique rulers, and other drafting materials on the table in our family room, I made designs by coloring in squares on my own pieces of graph paper. I also used rulers and colored pencils to make designs with lines at a variety of angles on unlined paper.
I loved my dad and spending time with him while we were “working” was special to me. My observations and activities awakened my picture-smart intelligence. Strengths today continue to be with graphs, charts, maps, and diagrams rather than with color and art in the classic sense.
The earlier an intelligence is awakened, the greater the chance it will be a strength. Parents have important power.