Today, I share that both times of quiet and times of solitude benefit the brain. Maybe you’ve never thought about how valuable rest is to the brain, but it’s true. In this age of constant noise and information coming at us from here, there, and everywhere, taking a break might be more important than ever before. Learn more. Listen. Share the ideas with those you care about.

Believe In Children, Help Them To Believe In Themselves


I don’t remember Paul well from the first day that he was one of my second graders. To be honest, the children who made quick impressions were usually the ones who ended up at the top or bottom of the class. That left the majority of the children in the middle, somewhat invisible group. Like all teachers, I had to be careful at the beginning and throughout the year to not ignore the substantive middle group containing the majority of the students.

Paul was an overweight, insecure, shy boy without a lot of confidence. He was academically behind many of his peers. But, he was also pleasant, and even jovial in spite of his challenges with his peer group and learning. When Paul felt safe, he had a great work ethic. He enjoyed learning once he figured out he could.

When I look back on my years of teaching second graders, Paul is one of my favorite kids to reflect upon. I watched him transition from believing he was a nobody with nothing to a somebody with present value and a bright future. That was a huge victory.

Paul needed to be surrounded by and supported by hope. Clear and specific teaching. Optimism. Practical help. Joy. High and realistic expectations. Encouragement. Honesty. Love.

Put Down The Platitudes – Offer Genuine Love & Support

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“Just read a few more verses.”

“I bet if you prayed more you’d worry less.”

“If you had more faith, you wouldn’t be so worried.”

When people who are anxious and prone to worry tell friends or church acquaintances that this is their struggle, these are among the statements they hear in response. No wonder friends of mine tell me they’ve learned to tell only a few trusted people. Statements like these do not help. In fact, they can make them feel worse.

Could worry be due to a lack of faith? Sure. Does it help to meditate on Scripture? It can. Does praying decrease worry? If we’re praying to the God of the Bible, in faith, it can.

But, even though those statements might be true, let’s think before we speak.

Have I earned the right to say what I’m thinking?

If I say it, do I have the time now to follow through and actually pray, suggest some relevant verses, and talk about how this person could respond in faith to what’s going on?

Do you want your children to believe in themselves and doubt you less? The multiple intelligences have proven to help make this happen! The eight smarts will be explained in easy-to-listen-to-easy-to-learn- from language. Both parents and children will gain personal understanding about how they are smart.

Event: “How Am I Smart? for the Whole Family” with Dr. Kathy
Venue: Online Seminar
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One of the lies too many young people may believe is that they are their own authority. In this video, I’ll explain why and how technology has influenced them to believe this and then I’ll use our driving rules and expectations to demonstrate how important standards and authority are. This may be a good discussion starter if you watch it with your teens. I trust it will be helpful.

Prayer Request & Ministry Opportunity At Stonegate In Midland Texas

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Tonight it will be my privilege to share a message about my new book here at Stonegate Fellowship in Midland Texas. I would appreciate your prayers that everything would go really well. We will be launching the video with my new book about technology and teenagers so were excited. “Screens and Teens” will be out in March.

Rather than multi-tasking being a sign of intelligence or evidence of productivity, what if it’s something else? It might be evidence we multi-process, are easily distracted, and avoid boredom or hard things by changing course midstream. What do you think? In this video, I’ll share a more accurate definition of what we’re actually doing when we think we’re “multi-tasking.” I’ll also mention why it’s more dangerous and unproductive for young people. Intrigued? Good! Listen and share if you think others would benefit. Thanks.

The Delight of Intentional And Recreational “Smarts”


Soccer3_Cropped_jpg45 minutes on Friday night. 70 minutes on Saturday morning. Another 50 minutes on Saturday morning. Two hours on Saturday afternoon.

The young adults sat and listened intently. They wrote things I said and insights the Holy Spirit gave them. They asked questions and willingly answered mine. They interacted comfortably with each other during the breaks.

When I sent them off by themselves to think more deeply about something, they did it. They did it well. Several told me later that the insights they received were very meaningful. I was grateful. I remain grateful.

We spent the last hour of our time together playing soccer in a large cage. Well that’s what some of the people did. A few of us watched. These men and women who had sat still for hours, even on uncomfortable chairs, became very body smart right before my eyes.

Many clearly had physical skills. They all had joy while in the cage. One jumped in the air and deftly kicked the ball in ways I couldn’t imagine even attempting. Many used their entire bodies well. Some were able to keep the ball between their feet, protecting it from someone on the other team. Others were able to kick it hard and straight right at the goal.

The men who took turns as goalies were also very body smart. They quickly maneuvered themselves into the path of the ball. They often caught it and tossed it into the playing field.

Two things strike me as being very important.

One, we should never assume people don’t have a particular smart simply because we don’t see them using it. I never would have guessed these young adults had the body-smart joy and ability they had based on the way they sat and listened to me. They hadn’t fidgeted, played with their pens, crossed and uncrossed their legs over and over again, or done anything but respectfully listen.

Second, I’m inspired and reminded that we don’t have to use an intelligence we have just because we have it. The reason I didn’t know these men and women were as body smart as they were is because they had not demonstrated it during the learning times of our retreat. They instead chose wisely to use the intelligences most relevant to the learning encounters we had. We can encourage people to use the intelligences most relevant to the activities they find themselves engaged in as they develop their self-control, self-respect, and respect for others.

What do you think? Can you remember something from your past that points to the same two insights? Whether you can or can’t, how about observing in the days that follow to see if an encounter with people supports these same points?

Who do you know who will benefit when you interact with these two points in mind? Do it.

Imparting Life To Those Raised In Negative Environments

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I was recently asked, “If people are raised only hearing negative things about themselves will they always only know their weaknesses? Can anything help them? Is there anything I can do to help them believe in themselves and their strengths? Is it too late?”

I’m grateful for this woman’s passion for someone she loves. It’s never too late. We will need to be persistent and extremely patient.

People raised with criticism who only had negatives pointed out to them will usually have a hard time believing compliments. They may verbalize we’re wrong or they may just reject our praise internally. They’ll deny it before our affirmations have a chance to influence them for good.

Are you wondering if you could or should homeschool? Doing it, but have questions about curriculum, schedules, motivation, or anything else? Dr. Kathy and Tina Hollenbeck want to answer your questions.

You are invited to attend our online seminar that will address YOUR questions. Send an email to with your questions and listen for the answer while you listen during the seminar. Just give us 30-minutes of your time. We’ll add 15 more if questions keep getting submitted.

The on-demand replay will be available after the event is over if you can’t listen live. The seminar must still be purchased.

Date: October 15, 2014
Time: 2:00 - 2:30/2:45 p.m. Central
Event: Home Schooling Questions and Answers with Dr. Kathy and Tina Hollenbeck
Location: In your living room, office, or wherever you have Internet access.
Public: Public