What Do You Truly Value?
What you value matters. Greatly. And your values are – or should be – related to gratitude. Let’s continue our series about having a thankfulness month and not just a thanksgiving day.
What do you value? How do you think your children would answer that question?
Notice, I didn’t ask you what you say you value. I asked what you do value. These are two different questions.
Keep these questions in mind if you do the “thinkfulness exercise” I recommended on Monday. Do your true values show up or will you discover, by what you say you’re thankful for, that you may have different values? This is worth thinking about. Be thinkful.
For example, in the samples I included in Monday’s blog, I mention Jesus, my brother, and our country. They’re high values of mine.
If you say…
If you say you value creativity, how might that show up when you think about being grateful? Are you grateful for your ability to choose colors that go well together when decorating? Are you thankful your daughter enjoys shopping because she creatively puts clothes together to make unique outfits? Or did nothing representing creativity make your list? Then maybe it’s not as high of a value as you think it is.
Do you say you value teamwork? How might that show up when you talk about people and things you’re grateful for? Maybe you remember your character quality of humility, specifically that you don’t always need to be recognized for your part in a group’s success. Maybe you list your son’s support from the bench for the starting members of his basketball team. Or, if there is nothing on your list representing teamwork, is it actually a high value?
And, how about this: I can’t imagine you don’t value people more than things. Is there evidence on your lists? This is worth thinking about. Remember, thankfulness comes from an Anglo-Saxon word meaning thinkfulness. If you’re not happy with your lists, slow down and spend some time thinking. Then, make some changes.
Because values influence everything – our use of time, talents, resources, and our relationships – they’re worth thinking about. I hope this short blog has helped you.