When people don’t believe we respect the struggle they experienced while accomplishing a task, our compliments and corrections won’t be as effective. They may not hear them at all. Dr. Kathy shares good things that occur when we respect people’s struggles. If you asked your children if they believe you respect their struggles, what do you think they’d say?

Here’s the first video in a new series about how to compliment and correct children well. Dr. Kathy begins by pointing out that we should take our opportunities to provide feedback seriously because it can be and should be powerful teaching language. She encourages us to compliment and correct to affect the future and not just judge the past. Which do you think you do most often?

In the final video about friendship skills, Dr. Kathy shares about the reality that some relationships just need to end. How do we do it well? What are the non-negotiables? What about reconciliation? Should we hope for that? There’s much to think about here.

After a short break, Dr. Kathy continues her video series about friendship with her seventh video. It’s about the art of resolving conflicts. This isn’t easy, is it? We think you’ll appreciate what she says about disagreements and conflicts and the value of talking about more than the negative action you might not have liked. What else could be relevant? She shares other ideas, too, that may help adults and not just children.

Dr. Kathy continues talking about friendship skills with a look at how to maintain them. Her list of skills related to this idea will help you become more aware of what your children need to learn. She encourages you to look for opportunities to share how you maintain your friendships in teachable moments with children. She closes with one of the most important things to do in order to keep friendships healthy. Will you be surprised?

Without being able to communicate well, relationships will rarely become friendships and friendships will rarely grow. You know your children well. What communication skills would they benefit from strengthening? Kathy mentions several for you to think about and she reminds us that technology is a reason to talk with your kids about how to communicate well face-to-face.

In this video about the friendship skill of choosing friends, Dr. Kathy shares the four friendship levels we can teach young people. Rather than letting just anyone close to their heart and then getting burned by their behavior, we can teach them to guard their heart. We want to help preteens and teens move people thoughtfully through the levels to their heart OR we want them to stop a person at a particular level. If you’d like to check out our “Be in Charge of Your Relationships” piece, you’ll find it here in our shopping cart. http://shop.celebratekids.com/5-core-needs/relationships-to-friendships-brochure/

Do you interpret people’s body language and facial feedback and use your judgements when deciding whether or not to approach someone and get to know him or her? I do and I check back to see if my judgements were accurate over time. Let’s teach our kids how to interpret body language. Does that stance mean that guy is bored, angry, welcoming, or closed to newcomers? Knowing is valuable.