When people don’t believe we respect the struggle they experienced while accomplishing a task, our compliments and corrections won’t be as effective. They may not hear them at all. Dr. Kathy shares good things that occur when we respect people’s struggles. If you asked your children if they believe you respect their struggles, what do you think they’d say?

Here’s the first video in a new series about how to compliment and correct children well. Dr. Kathy begins by pointing out that we should take our opportunities to provide feedback seriously because it can be and should be powerful teaching language. She encourages us to compliment and correct to affect the future and not just judge the past. Which do you think you do most often?

In the final video about friendship skills, Dr. Kathy shares about the reality that some relationships just need to end. How do we do it well? What are the non-negotiables? What about reconciliation? Should we hope for that? There’s much to think about here.

After a short break, Dr. Kathy continues her video series about friendship with her seventh video. It’s about the art of resolving conflicts. This isn’t easy, is it? We think you’ll appreciate what she says about disagreements and conflicts and the value of talking about more than the negative action you might not have liked. What else could be relevant? She shares other ideas, too, that may help adults and not just children.

Dr. Kathy continues talking about friendship skills with a look at how to maintain them. Her list of skills related to this idea will help you become more aware of what your children need to learn. She encourages you to look for opportunities to share how you maintain your friendships in teachable moments with children. She closes with one of the most important things to do in order to keep friendships healthy. Will you be surprised?

Do you interpret people’s body language and facial feedback and use your judgements when deciding whether or not to approach someone and get to know him or her? I do and I check back to see if my judgements were accurate over time. Let’s teach our kids how to interpret body language. Does that stance mean that guy is bored, angry, welcoming, or closed to newcomers? Knowing is valuable.

Dr. Kathy continues talking about how to help young people choose friends by explaining that they can use their senses, experiences, and intuition to identify and determine people’s beliefs and character qualities. She stresses that if our children don’t choose someone as a friend, it doesn’t mean they can be mean-spirited about it.

Dr. Kathy doesn’t just have books in her office. In today’s video, she explains why she has an unusual “picture” of an eagle hanging there. Do you know that they regularly fly at 100 miles an hour and can strangle animals four times their weight with their talons? They’re strong animals!
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