For your consideration …

“Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; His love endures forever.” – 1 Chronicles 16:34

“To you, O God of my fathers, I give thanks and praise, for you have given me wisdom and might.” ~Daniel 2:23

“I will give to the Lord the thanks due to his righteousness, and I will sing praise to the name of the Lord, the Most High.” ~Psalm 7:17

“I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds.” ~Psalm 9:1

“The Lord is my strength and my shield; in him my heart trusts, and I am helped; my heart exults, and with my song I give thanks to him.” ~Psalm 28:7

“O Lord my God, I will give You thanks forever!” ~Psalm 30:12

“In God we have boasted continually, and we will give thanks to your name forever.” ~Psalm 44:8

“I will give thanks to you, O Lord, among the peoples; I will sing praises to you among the nations.” ~Psalm 57:9

“I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify him with thanksgiving.” ~Psalm 69:30

“We give thanks to you, O God; we give thanks, for your name is near. We recount your wondrous deeds.” ~Psalm 75:1

“But we your people, the sheep of your pasture, will give thanks to you forever; from generation to generation we will recount your praise.” ~Psalm 79:13

“I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart, and I will glorify your name forever.” ~Psalm 86:12

“Rejoice in the Lord, O you righteous, and give thanks to his holy name!” ~Psalm 97:12

“Sing a new song to the Lord, for He has done wonderful deeds.” ~Psalm 98:1

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!” ~Psalm 100:4

“Praise the Lord! Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!” ~Psalm 106:1

“Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; for his steadfast love endures forever!” ~Psalm 118:1

“You are my God, and I will give thanks to you; you are my God; I will extol you.” ~Psalm 118:28

“The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.” ~Psalm 126:3

“Give thanks to the Lord of lords, for his steadfast love endures forever.” ~Psalm 136:3

“But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.” ~1 Corinthians 15:57

“Thank God for His gift that is too wonderful for words!” ~ 2 Corinthians 9:15

“Give thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,” ~Ephesians 5:20

“And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” ~Colossians 3:17

“Let us be thankful and please God by worshipping Him.” ~Hebrews 12:28

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18


Are you thankful for the Word of God and all the reminders of how much we have to be grateful for?

What a Day of ThanksLIVING Looks Like

What a Day of ThanksLIVING Looks Like


What a Day of ThanksLIVING Looks Like


My friend, Sue Bohlin, posted a blog last week that I knew I needed to share with you so here it is. You will react, I’m just not sure how. You may be humbled. I’ll be shocked if you’re not. Inspired? Yes. Convicted? Possibly. I definitely was.

Perhaps you read in one of my earlier blogs that “thankfulness” comes from an old Anglo Saxon word, “thinkfulness.” From the day I learned that, I’ve approached gratitude differently.

Sue writes about “thanksliving.” Thinking about living with thanks is always challenging. It was extra challenging to read Sue’s words because she is a survivor of childhood polio and rides a scooter to get around. Yet, she’s thankful. She’s so thankful she leads a life of “thanksliving.” I want to be more like Sue.


Guest post by Sue Bohlin

“Always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father . . .” (Ephesians 5:20). That’s a pretty tall order: all the time? for all things? Seriously?

When I was first challenged to obey this scripture, some 44 years ago, I thought that surely it wasn’t translated properly. Or maybe there was a footnote. Or an asterisk. Surely some kind of loophole, right?

Nope. It means just what it says. We can continually give thanks for all things because if God is truly in control, then everything He allows us to experience comes with His permission-and thus He has a plan. For everything He allows. Even if we can’t see it.

It became a way of life for me, and has been a habit for over four decades. With the celebration of Thanksgiving looming, I paid attention to what that long-standing habit sounds like in the course of a day.

[Upon waking] “Oh, it’s morning. Thank You, Lord, that my radio came on at the right time. That means we had uninterrupted electricity all night.” Alternatively, “Oh, it’s morning. Thank You so much for the blessing of being able to sleep till I woke up, with no alarm! What a blessing!”

[Upon turning over in bed] “Lord, thank You so, so much that I can shift position without pain now! Thank you again for the stem cell treatment that made it possible!”

[Upon getting out of bed into my mobility scooter] “Lord, {ouch ouch ouch} I thank You that the pain of moving from the bed to my scooter will dissipate quickly. And thank You again that I have a scooter for getting around.”

[Standing up to transfer from the scooter to the commode] “Owwwwww! But Lord, I thank You for the grab bars to lean on, and thank You for the new tall handicap toilet. It is so much easier to use this than the regular ones everywhere else.”

[Riding to the kitchen] “Lord, thank You for speed and painlessness! I love being the fastest one in the house!”

[Making coffee] “Lord! Bless You for creating coffee! Thank You for caffeine! Thank You for my coffee maker, and half and half, and sweetener. Thank You for mugs. Thank You for Central Market and the wonderful flavored coffees I can get there. Thank You for blessing [our son] Kevin in the coffee world—Lord, order his steps today in Nepal while he’s investigating becoming coffee partners with farmers there, and use him to help fight sex trafficking through coffee instead.”

Sue’s Thanksliving Continues

[Moving to the couch] “Oh Lord, owwwww—thank You that the pain will subside quickly, and thank You for our couch and the table to hold my coffee while I read Your word. Thank You for a Bible in English and the ability to read. Thank You for the Holy Spirit to illumine its meaning to me. Thank You for an online Bible reading program from my church that allows me to join with thousands of people worldwide in reading the same passage and then reading a devotional from one of our members. Thank You for the technology that allows me to affirm the devo writer and share my take on today’s reading.”

[Preparing to take a shower] “Thank You again, Lord, for this magnificent roll—in shower You gave us in the recent renovation to make our house handicap-friendly. Thank You for the grab bars and for the bench seat that lets me sit down. Thank You for the hand-held shower. And for hot water. And for clean hot water! And for 24/7 clean hot water! Thank You for the blessing of being able to take it for granted, but Lord, I don’t want to take it for granted.”

Sue Leaves Her Home

[Getting in the car] “Thank You, Lord, for [our son who lives with us] Curt’s availability to help me get in and out of the car and take care of the scooter. Thank You that the barometric pressure is stable today so my pain level is lower. Thank You that no rain is forecast. Oh, there’s our trash bin at the edge of the driveway; thank You for helping Ray remember to get it out before the garbage truck came by. And thank You for garbage pick-up, Lord! Thank You for people willing to take care of that for us!”

[Driving] “Thank You for paved roads, Lord. And for traffic lights. And for the engineers who set all that up. Thank You that everybody drives on the same side of the street. And thank You for everybody honoring that red lights mean stop and green lights mean go. Thank You that I can read all the road signs and street sights because they’re in English. I remember sounding out the Cyrillic letters in Belarus like a kindergartner, and thank You for helping me do that when I was able to go, but today I’m thankful to be surrounded by English!”

[Arriving at church for Bible study] “Thank You, Lord, for the growing number of friends in ‘Sue’s Scooter Army’ who are trained to help me by getting the scooter out of the car and bringing it to me at the driver’s seat. Thank You for their sweet joy in genuinely being glad to help. Thank You for making my love language acts of service, so it makes me feel so loved!”

[Riding into the church] “Lord, thank You for electricity, and comfort because of the heating and air conditioning. Thank You there’s nobody threatening to arrest or persecute us for coming to church. Thank You for the freedom to study Your word publicly . . . and Lord, today I am so very very grateful for the privilege of teaching Your word to precious women who are so teachable and so appreciative. Thank You for the ramp that allows me to ride my scooter onto the stage. Thank You for the face mic that lets me keep my hands free. Thank You for the lights, and the padded chairs, and the audio system, and for Powerpoint that’s working so everybody can see the slides I prepared. Thank You for the other leaders who helped me do my run through the other day so I could make my lecture even better. Thank You, Lord, for your Holy Spirit to empower me to speak Your truth in Your strength, to Your glory.”

And that takes me to 10:30. That’s what thanksLIVING looks like.


What Do You Think? What Will You Do?

I’m going to pay more attention to the elements of my day and my attitude toward each. Will you join me? Let’s be brave!


Sue Bohlin is a speaker/writer and webmistress for Probe Ministries, a Christian organization that helps people to think biblically. She loves teaching women and laughing, and if those two can be combined, all the better. She also loves speaking for MOPS (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers) and Stonecroft Ministries (Christian Women’s Clubs) on the topic How to Handle the Things You Hate But Can’t Change, based on her lifelong experience as a polio survivor.

She has a freelance calligraphy business in her home studio; hand lettering was her “Proverbs 31 job” while her children were young. Sue also serves on the board of Living Hope Ministries, a Christ-centered organization that helps people struggling with unwanted homosexuality and the family members of those with same-sex attractions.

Sue never met a cruise ship she didn’t like, especially now that God has provided a travel scooter for getting around any ship! She is happily married to Dr. Ray Bohlin, writer and speaker on faith and science with Probe Ministries, and they have two grown sons. You can follow Sue on Twitter @suebohlin.

Sue first guest-posted for me back in May. You can read that blog about helping teens continue strong in their faith here. She blogs regularly at You may enjoy following her there.

Dr. Kathy continues talking about friendship skills with a look at how to maintain them. Her list of skills related to this idea will help you become more aware of what your children need to learn. She encourages you to look for opportunities to share how you maintain your friendships in teachable moments with children. She closes with one of the most important things to do in order to keep friendships healthy. Will you be surprised?

Could Technology Be the Biggest Threat to Our Kids’ Faith?

Could Technology Be the Biggest Threat to Our Kids’ Faith?

Could Technology Be the Biggest Threat to Our Kids’ Faith?


A few weeks ago, I spoke in a church about the truths that combat the technology lies I write about in Screens and Teens. Near the beginning of my message, I said something like this:  “I hope you’re concerned about lies being told about the God of the Bible, Christianity, and other religions. They are dangerous and potentially misleading your children. What if I suggested there’s a source of lies that’s more influential than the TV news?“

Everyone was paying attention. When I suggested it’s technology causing especially young people to believe lies, I think many were doubtful. Thirty minutes later they weren’t.

Of course, I’m not the only one who understands how our current culture can negatively influence us and the young adults and teens we care about. Brett Kunkle and John Stonestreet have studied our culture and people well to draw significant conclusions for their excellent book, A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World.

Read Monday’s important blog by John if you haven’t already. Today I’m sharing insights from Brett about technology. We see eye-to-eye. His opening comments about why we must be aware of the power of technology are compelling. His list of how technology can specifically interfere with teens’ faith development is alarming. His 9 points will cause you to think. I doubt you stop there. Brett, John, and I hope you make changes if the list and his other thoughts are relevant to you. (I can’t imagine they won’t be!)

Technology is not the only thing Brett and John include in A Practical Guide to Culture that distracts our children from pursuing Christ and Christlikeness. Their complete analysis is one of the reasons I highly recommend the book. You’ll understand more about the culture; young people’s beliefs, decisions, and attitudes; and why to stay current and concerned.

Enjoy this, benefit from it, and then I encourage you to share it. Let’s work together to inspire many people.




Guest post by Brett Kunkle, Founder and President of MAVEN

Certainly, the host of intellectual challenges our young people face are a threat to their faith, such as the atheistic arguments of a college professor or the anti-Christian views of a secular culture. But how often does the typical evangelical kid face the arguments of an atheist or a skeptic? Here and there, but it’s probably not a daily encounter. Of course, we still must equip our kids with good apologetics and worldview-thinking so they’re able to deal with skeptical challenges to Christianity.

However, how often will our kids face the challenges of technology? Every. Single. Day. Technology is omnipresent in a student’s world. Whether it’s the internet, social media, or their smartphones, students are bombarded daily—no, hourly—with the pressures and provocations of technology. And those challenges can be just as powerful as the challenges of the atheist or skeptic.

Technology can:

  1. Make students passive and apathetic.
  2. Create distracted young minds.
  3. Decrease student’s desire and ability to read.
  4. Decrease student’s attention spans and the ability to think and concentrate.
  5. Decrease our ability to think deeply and carefully.
  6. Create addiction to the screen. (Indeed,some research suggests teens are replacing their drug addiction with smart phone Teens are addicted to social media, as well.)
  7. Rewire a student’s brain.
  8. Inculcate the values of pop culture.
  9. Allow unfettered access to pornography.

Ultimately, the impact of technology has tremendous potential to slowly but surely erode and undermine the faith of the next generation. So what are parents, pastors, Christian educators and youth workers to do? Put in some hard work to understand this technological revolution and be intentional to combat its harmful and corrosive effects on our youth. In addition, find ways to harness technology for good. Here are five suggestions to equip yourself so that you can equip your kids:

  1. Read A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World.  John Stonestreet and I spend part of the book tackling technology, showing how it shapes our kids, as well as offering practical steps parents, youth leaders and pastors can take to help guide their students through this challenge.
  2. Kathy here – Brett kindly recommends my book this way: Read Kathy Koch’s excellent book, Screens and Teens: Connecting With Our Kids in a Wireless World.  Kathy helps parents understand the lies that technology feeds our kids and offers helpful practices parents can put into place in their family life. I’ve used her many of her insights with my own
  3. Subscribe to The Culture Translator weekly emails from AXIS and “gain weekly insight into how pop culture, technology, and media are influencing your students.”
  4. Set aside some time to read this interview on“Smartphones and How They Change Us.” It offers some of the most penetrating insight that I have ever read into the impact of technology on our souls.
  5. Read John Stonestreet’s post“Amusing Ourselves to Death” from Summit Ministries. It’s excellent.

Choose one or two of these suggestions and start immediately. The faith of your kids—and the next generation—may depend on it.


What do you think? Do you especially see evidence of one or more of Brett’s nine points in your teens or teens you serve? How can you talk with them about them? Which of the five suggestions will you follow through on? When? Now? Great!

I certainly recommend you purchase A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World for any adults who care about and work with young adults and teens.  Also, if you know young adults frustrated by their own generation and concerned, buy this book for them. I’m buying copies for Christmas gifts for my niece who teaches and coaches in a Christian school and my nephew and his wife who work with teens in their church. Who do you know who needs this book?

Check out Brett‘s ministry at Read the “about” page and you’ll see how much he and I have in common. I’m eager to see how God is going to continue to use him now that he’s launched his own ministry. And, if you don’t already follow John’s work at BreakPoint, the nationally syndicated commentary on the culture founded by the late Chuck Colson, and the Colson Center for Christian Worldview, I encourage you to. I depend on both to keep me informed with truth. It’s right to care and to stay informed. More than ever before, we need to discern who to listen to and who to follow. These men are all about Jesus and truth. (By the way, if you’ll be coming to any of the Great Homeschool Conventions in 2018, both Brett and John will be speaking at all five.)


Brett KunkleBrett Kunkle is the founder and president of MAVEN (, a movement to equip the next generation to know truth, pursue goodness and create beauty. He has more than 25 years of experience working with junior high, high school, and college students. Brett has developed a groundbreaking approach to mission trips, creating a one-of-a-kind experience that immerses participants in real-life engagement in apologetics, theology, worldview and evangelism in Berkeley, California, and Salt Lake City, Utah. In addition, Brett is a Teaching Fellow at the Impact 360 Institute. He was an associate editor for the Apologetics Study Bible for Students and co-authored A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World. He received his Master’s degree in philosophy of religion and ethics from Talbot School of Theology. Brett lives with his wife and kids in Southern California.

‘Adult’ is Not a Verb: Helping Young People Spread Their Wings

‘Adult’ is Not a Verb: Helping Young People Spread Their Wings

‘Adult’ is Not a Verb: Helping Young People Spread Their Wings

My parents and grandparents were involved in politics and community service, so my brother and I were raised to care about and contribute to both. Because of that, and my grandfather’s job at our local newspaper before he became the mayor, I used to read the newspaper and watch the news on TV regularly. Now it’s not easy to watch the news. I don’t trust much of it. I know what I’m being told is biased and incomplete. I skim-read my local paper.

I’m not going to bury my head in the sand, though, and pretend things aren’t going on that concern me. I care deeply about God’s reputation, families, parents, teens, and children. Therefore, I am choosing to spend more of my intellectual energy and time studying culture and worldview issues from trusted online and print sources. That’s why reading John Stonestreet and Brett Kunkle‘s book, A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World was a no-brainer for me.  I didn’t just read it, though. I devoured it. I encourage you to, too. (Disclaimer: John is a friend who wrote the forward to Eight Great Smarts. I’d read anything he writes.)

As you’ll see from this blog John originally wrote for, posted on May 16th, he and Brett write about issues that concern you and me. Their interpretations, insights, and practical ideas and challenges will inform and encourage you. You may be motivated to action. At the very least, I picture many of you, my readers, using John’s post as a discussion starter with teens and young adults. Enjoy this and then I encourage you to share it. Let’s work together to inspire many people.




Guest post by John Stonestreet, President of the Colson Center for Christian Worldview


There’s a new word touted by Webster that exposes a crisis in our culture of generational proportions.

It’s been called a lot of things: “Peter Pan Syndrome” or my favorite, “failure to launch,” but whatever the term, the phenomenon is undeniable. A record number of young people today are getting stuck in the transition between childhood and adulthood.

Despite attending college in record numbers, millennials seem to struggle to move on to the next phase of life. Just a decade ago, a healthy majority of young adults were able to successfully fledge. Now, those who’ve managed to leave the nest are a minority.

Of course, the recession and a sluggish job market are factors. Millennials do have tougher career prospects than their parents did. But the economy isn’t the only explanation, and the language young people use to talk about adulthood makes that obvious.

Writing in The Wall Street Journal, Nebraska Senator Ben Sasse announced that Twitter had turned the noun “adult” into a verb. “#Adulting” is what kids post on social media to congratulate themselves for the rather ordinary feats of paying the bills, finishing the laundry, or just getting to work on time.

“I adulted!” goes the saying, as if fulfilling daily responsibilities is somehow above and beyond the call of duty. “Adulting” has become so universally recognized that the American Dialect Society nominated it for the most creative word of 2015.

“To a growing number of Americans,” writes Sasse, “acting like a grown-up seems like a kind of role-playing, a mode of behavior requiring humorous detachment.”

This isn’t just the complaint of a crotchety old man about young whipper-snappers. What we’re witnessing today, insists the senator, is a trend toward “perpetual adolescence,”—a “coming-of-age crisis,” that shows up as a real and measurable reduction in the difference between 10-year-olds and 30-year-olds.

But if our kids don’t know what it means to be adults, parents, we should be asking ourselves, are we teaching them? Isolation in peer groups of the same age, widespread complacency toward history and ethics, unbridled consumerism, and even those infamous participation trophies have all contributed to this crisis.

We’d do well to remember what C. S. Lewis wrote in “The Abolition of Man” of those who “remove the organ and demand the function,” who “make men without chests and expect of them virtue and enterprise,” who “castrate and bid the geldings be fruitful.”

Senator Sasse offers steps to reverse the trend of perpetual adolescence and to help kids from an early age understand the meaning of adulthood. Teach them the difference, he says, between a “need” and a “want,” embrace hard work together, travel meaningfully, and read widely. These are all important steps to forming mature citizens.

And in our new book “A Practical Guide to Culture,” my co-author Brett Kunkle and I have a chapter entitled “Perpetual Adolescence and Castrated Geldings.” In it, we offer even more suggestions for helping teens grow up. Come to to find out how to get your copy.

But the Senator’s most important suggestion? Older generations must start investing in the lives of young adults. Summarizing relevant research in 2013, The Boston Globe reported a staggering statistic: Only a quarter of Americans 60 and older had discussed anything important with anyone under 36 in the previous six months! Exclude relatives and that figure dropped to a mortifying 6 percent. How alien this would have sounded to the Apostle Paul, who in Titus 2 urges older men and older women to teach the younger.

Only by connecting and investing in their lives can we reasonably expect our kids, our grandkids, and their peers to understand that “adult” is not something you do. It’s someone you are.




What Do You Think? What Will You Do?

Are you going to talk with teens and young adults about this? Or, how did you react to this sentence? But if our kids don’t know what it means to be adults, parents, we should be asking ourselves, are we teaching them? Maybe we should talk about this with other parents we care about.

I recommend you purchase A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World for any adults who care about and work with young adults and teens. Also, if you know young adults frustrated by their own generation and concerned, buy this book for them. I’m buying copies for Christmas gifts for my niece who teaches and coaches in a Christian school and my nephew and his wife who work with teens in their church. Who do you know who needs this book?

If you don’t already follow John’s work at BreakPoint, the nationally syndicated commentary on the culture founded by the late Chuck Colson, and the Colson Center for Christian Worldview, I encourage you to. I depend on both to keep me informed with truth. And, check out Brett‘s ministry at Read the “about” page and you’ll see how much he and I have in common. I’m eager to see how God is going to continue to use him now that he’s launched his own ministry. It’s right to care and to stay informed. More than ever before, we need to discern who to listen to and who to follow. These men are all about Jesus and truth. (By the way, if you’ll be coming to any of the Great Homeschool Conventions in 2018, both John and Brett will be speaking at all five.)




John is the President of the Colson Center for Christian Worldview, a sought-after speaker on issues of worldview and culture, and co-host of the nationally distributed daily commentary BreakPoint. His books include A Practical Guide to Culture (2017), Restoring All Things (2014), Same-Sex Marriage (2013), and Making Sense of Your World (2007). Follow John on Twitter (@jbstonestreet).

Without being able to communicate well, relationships will rarely become friendships and friendships will rarely grow. You know your children well. What communication skills would they benefit from strengthening? Kathy mentions several for you to think about and she reminds us that technology is a reason to talk with your kids about how to communicate well face-to-face.

What Do You Truly Value?

What Do You Truly Value?

What Do You Truly Value?


What you value matters. Greatly. And your values are – or should be – related to gratitude. Let’s continue our series about having a thankfulness month and not just a thanksgiving day.

What do you value? How do you think your children would answer that question?

Notice, I didn’t ask you what you say you value. I asked what you do value. These are two different questions.

Keep these questions in mind if you do the “thinkfulness exercise” I recommended on Monday.  Do your true values show up or will you discover, by what you say you’re thankful for, that you may have different values? This is worth thinking about. Be thinkful.

For example, in the samples I included in Monday’s blog, I mention Jesus, my brother, and our country. They’re high values of mine.

If you say…

If you say you value creativity, how might that show up when you think about being grateful? Are you grateful for your ability to choose colors that go well together when decorating? Are you thankful your daughter enjoys shopping because she creatively puts clothes together to make unique outfits? Or did nothing representing creativity make your list? Then maybe it’s not as high of a value as you think it is.

Do you say you value teamwork? How might that show up when you talk about people and things you’re grateful for? Maybe you remember your character quality of humility, specifically that you don’t always need to be recognized for your part in a group’s success. Maybe you list your son’s support from the bench for the starting members of his basketball team. Or, if there is nothing on your list representing teamwork, is it actually a high value?

And, how about this: I can’t imagine you don’t value people more than things. Is there evidence on your lists? This is worth thinking about. Remember, thankfulness comes from an Anglo-Saxon word meaning thinkfulness. If you’re not happy with your lists, slow down and spend some time thinking. Then, make some changes.

Because values influence everything – our use of time, talents, resources, and our relationships – they’re worth thinking about. I hope this short blog has helped you.

Thankfulness Comes From Thinkfulness

Thankfulness Comes From Thinkfulness

Thankfulness Comes From Thinkfulness


Last Wednesday, on November 1, I suggested that November could be a month of thankfulness rather than be a month with one thanksgiving day. Does that appeal to you?

We would be better off if we become grateful people and not just say we’re thankful. We need to recognize what and who we can be and even should be grateful for. Some people make a list. Some keep a gratitude journal. I think doing something has value. It makes gratitude more concrete and real. This may be especially true for children of all ages.

Thankfulness comes from an old Anglo-Saxon word, “thinkfulness.” As I wrote about it in Screens and Teens, Thinking leads to thanking. I’m not talking about teens who say “thank you” because their dads glare at them. I’m talking about grateful being who we are, not just what we do and say. Gratitude can be a built-in part of our identities. This is what allows us to be thankful “in all circumstances” (1 Thessalonians 5:18). (page 79)

Let’s get our kids thinking about thankfulness. Maybe it would help focus their thoughts if we gave them categories to think about. They could make lists or just process ideas internally and then talk with you. Young children can dictate their answers to you or older siblings. I picture some of you collecting, posting, and talking about many lists! (If you do, I’d love to see pictures.)

Let’s Get Practical

Try these categories. Let me know what you think of to add. Maybe you could put each set of words on a piece of paper, assign each family member a color of pen or pencil, and start writing. If you leave the papers out somewhere, hopefully each of you will stop by often as you think of things to add. Remember to discuss why you’re grateful on the nights when you make time to go through the lists.

You might want to list a few things first on each paper to provide examples. After a few days, help your children who haven’t listed much think more. Discern why they’re hesitant. What don’t they understand about gratitude?

One more comment before I give you the categories. This exercise is very self-focusing. That’s fine because the only people who will be grateful are those who know what they can be grateful for. But, we don’t want this to encourage self-centeredness or pride. You can expand the idea to be more family-centered if you’d like. For instance, you could put each person’s name on a piece of paper and have others list things about that person they’re grateful for. If they’ve already used the categories when thinking about themselves, it should be easier to think of things from the categories for you and their siblings without even listing the categories on the family pieces of paper.

Thinkfulness Categories for Thankfulness

  • attitudes, actions, beliefs
    • For example, among other things, I’m grateful for my positive outlook, actions I’ve taken so I will lose weight, and my belief in Christ.
  • people, things
    • For example, among other things, I’m grateful for my brother because of his constant support and for a new shelf a friend built for me that is allowing me to have easy access to some of my favorite books. (Look not only at what your children list, but the order in which they list everything. Are many things listed before any people? Or, are the only people they list family members? Have a conversation.)
  • strengths, challenges, interests
    • For example, among other things, I’m grateful for my problem-solving abilities. Your children may be surprised to find  “challenges” as a category. It’s so worth thinking about these things with the big picture of life in mind. For instance, I’m grateful for each of my three knee surgeries because God used them to show me I couldn’t do everything myself. I learned to ask for help and to allow people to serve me. People were blessed and I’m a better person. I’m grateful I’m interested in our government, our country’s Christian heritage, and our future as a nation.
  • spiritual self, emotional self, social self, intellectual self, physical self, character self
    • For example, among other things, I’m grateful:
      • Spiritual: the examples of Nehemiah and Esther from God’s Holy Word inspire me.
      • Emotional: it’s been a long time since I was surprised by my quick temper.
      • Social: I love introducing people to others and watching their friendships flourish.
      • Intellectual: I enjoy putting ideas together in new ways.
      • Physical: my back is much better.
      • Character: I’ve become more teachable, especially in regards to what I need to do to lose weight.
  • past, present, future
    • For example, among other things, in my past, I’m grateful that my parents encouraged my brother and me to pursue our musical interests because we still enjoy music today. In the present, I’m grateful for an excellent chiropractor who is staying knowledgeable through many training opportunities. For the future, I’m grateful for opportunities coming up that will allow me (and all of Celebrate Kids) to influence more people. (And, I can’t wait until I can fill everyone in!)

Don’t wait

If you read something that makes sense, don’t wait to implement your ideas. Thanksgiving is a day 17 days away, but we can have a month full of thanksgiving. And starting now will make the day more meaningful than typical. We can celebrate thankfulness this month!

In this video about the friendship skill of choosing friends, Dr. Kathy shares the four friendship levels we can teach young people. Rather than letting just anyone close to their heart and then getting burned by their behavior, we can teach them to guard their heart. We want to help preteens and teens move people thoughtfully through the levels to their heart OR we want them to stop a person at a particular level. If you’d like to check out our “Be in Charge of Your Relationships” piece, you’ll find it here in our shopping cart.

A Month Of Thanksgiving

A Month of Thanksgiving

A Month Of Thanksgiving


Picture your ideal Thanksgiving. Did you think of the food? Or did you think first of the people you’d be with? I wouldn’t be surprised if both of these came to mind. Maybe you pictured yourself gathered with others on the couch to watch the big parade. Or football. Or both.

What if we thought more about the conversations we’d like to have? If we think about them now, maybe we can plan for them to happen.

What would we sound like and look like in 22 days – on Thanksgiving – if we thought about being thankful every day this month? Or, what if instead of celebrating Thanksgiving day we celebrated Thanksgiving month?

What would have to be true for us to be able to celebrate thankfulness?

  • Think more about what we have than about what we don’t have.
  • Believe all we are and all we have are gifts.
  • Believe nothing is guaranteed.
  • Know we deserve nothing.
  • Believe something is better than nothing.
  • Believe “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” (Proverbs 14:23)

Beliefs cause behaviors. Absolutely.

Therefore, it makes sense to understand that we’ll influence children’s behaviors the most when we work to change their beliefs. Of course, the same is true for you and me. What do we talk about? What don’t we talk about? How much of our talk could be classified as complaining? Which of our beliefs need to change?

What would you add to the above list of beliefs? Think about negative behaviors related to thankfulness that you’d like to change in your life or the life of your kids. Maybe, entitlement attitudes? Being demanding? Complaining? Selfishness? Confusing wants with needs? Something else? What beliefs are their foundation?

Therefore, if we want giving thanks to be automatic on Thanksgiving day, we need to start thinking about, talking about, and praying about corresponding beliefs now. We can help children be truly thankful and not just say they are because the date on the calendar requires it. We can change, too.

So we’ll have to work at it, be aware of what we are and are not modeling, and have some deep conversations. Are you willing? Is it worth it to you?