A Month Of Thanksgiving
Picture your ideal Thanksgiving. Did you think of the food? Or did you think first of the people you’d be with? I wouldn’t be surprised if both of these came to mind. Maybe you pictured yourself gathered with others on the couch to watch the big parade. Or football. Or both.
What if we thought more about the conversations we’d like to have? If we think about them now, maybe we can plan for them to happen.
What would we sound like and look like in 22 days – on Thanksgiving – if we thought about being thankful every day this month? Or, what if instead of celebrating Thanksgiving day we celebrated Thanksgiving month?
What would have to be true for us to be able to celebrate thankfulness?
- Think more about what we have than about what we don’t have.
- Believe all we are and all we have are gifts.
- Believe nothing is guaranteed.
- Know we deserve nothing.
- Believe something is better than nothing.
- Believe “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” (Proverbs 14:23)
Beliefs cause behaviors. Absolutely.
Therefore, it makes sense to understand that we’ll influence children’s behaviors the most when we work to change their beliefs. Of course, the same is true for you and me. What do we talk about? What don’t we talk about? How much of our talk could be classified as complaining? Which of our beliefs need to change?
What would you add to the above list of beliefs? Think about negative behaviors related to thankfulness that you’d like to change in your life or the life of your kids. Maybe, entitlement attitudes? Being demanding? Complaining? Selfishness? Confusing wants with needs? Something else? What beliefs are their foundation?
Therefore, if we want giving thanks to be automatic on Thanksgiving day, we need to start thinking about, talking about, and praying about corresponding beliefs now. We can help children be truly thankful and not just say they are because the date on the calendar requires it. We can change, too.
So we’ll have to work at it, be aware of what we are and are not modeling, and have some deep conversations. Are you willing? Is it worth it to you?